Wednesday, November 12, 2014

Strip Down: Underwear For Tomboys

Let's talk about my favorite item of clothing, underwear. Underwear is very influential in self-confidence and is also worn as a fashion statement. We spend hundreds of dollars a year on something that only a few people will ever see. Why? Because underwear has the power to make us feel things. It can make us feel sexy, cute, spunky, naughty, masculine, feminine, risqué and/or attractive.

Being fluid in my gender presentation, underwear has always been a big deal for me. I remember hating how out of place I felt in girly underwear! Nothing was worse than when my friends convinced me to buy my first thong, it was so uncomfortable and made me feel ashamed of my body. I didn't feel sexy or even remotely attractive. It all changed when I bought my first pair of boxers (see me in my underwear at the end of the article), I finally felt confident. There's only one problem,  I have struggled to find masculine underwear to fit my curvy hips and bountiful booty. Luckily, more and more brands are coming out with gender neutral/ gender fluid underwear. This post is going to mainly look at masculine style boxers for female bodies as well as other queer underwear companies.

Play Out-
Finally! A gender neutral underwear company. Whether you identify as male or female, Play Out designs all of their underwear to appeal to all gender identities. Their underwear averages at a price of about $24.00 and they offer international shipping to countries outside of the United States.

They carry two main styles of underwear:
1. The Boxer Brief cut is slightly shorter and has a flat stitched front; in fashion, this cut pattern is most often designed for women or female bodies.
2. The Trunks are slightly longer than the boxer briefs, and offer a fabric pocket in the front. This design is most often marketed towards men or male bodies.

Note: Either design can be worn by anyone, but has special features to fit different body styles. 

Boxer Brief Cut

Featured in my article 5 Accessories Every Tomboy Needs, this British based underwear company was founded for queer women who struggle to find underwear that fits their style preferences. They offer a wide selection of fun prints with the average pair of underwear ranging in cost from $18.00-$28.00 and offer world-wide shipping. A special note to women of all sizes, they carry up to size 4X (size 22) in most of their styles!

One of my followers on Tumblr had this to say about FOCX:
"I’ve replaced all my underwear with FOCX. The quality is fucking amazing, and I mean, they are made for gay ladies as a segment, so the fit, the look, the feel, it’s all there!" -Homolesbians

Purple Yellow Contrast Boi Shorts made from a high-tec
breathable material. 

Let's Be Brief is a lesbian-owned company focused on comfort, quality, fit and style. LBB aims to sell gender neutral boxer briefs and briefs that embody a masculine look, paired with innovative style, to flatter sizes XS to XXL. They donate a percentage of sales is donated to support LGBTQ organizations each year. Prices range from $10.00-$25.00.

TomboyX, in addition to their tomboy clothing, also offers a super soft women's boxer. The boxers were fit tested on tomboys of every shape and size, all the way up to 4XL. The TomboyX branded waistband is silky soft and designed to gently hug you front to back, without gaping. . The price for a single pair averages at about $25.00, but there are different bundle deals that lower the cost per pair if you are interested in buying more than one pair. 

Underwear Tips:
-The tightness of your underwear should correspond to tightness of your pants. This keeps your underwear from creating awkward bulges in your pants. It also will be a lot more comfortable for you. 

-Try out different styles. I personally love boxer briefs that don't contain a front opening or pouch, they typically doesn't bunch up as much. I get most of my underwear at American Eagle or Aeropostale. I have also heard really good things from other queer women about American Apparel's underwear selection and fit.

-Invest! A good pair of underwear will last you longer than cheaper fabrics. It's smart to invest in underwear that will fit your body type properly. Underwear is something you will always need, so get some you love!

-Ask your friends about the underwear they like/dislike. Most of my underwear purchases were influenced by my other queer friends. They know what fits and what is not worth your money or time.

-Be comfortable! I preach this every post. What you wear should make you feel your best. No matter what kind of underwear you chose to wear, make sure that it makes you feel good about yourself. 

Check out me in my favorite underwear! 
Aeropostale Boxer Briefs
Champion Compression Short Boxers from Target

Also: Check out this super helpful underwear guide for queer women from AutoStraddle: Your Queer Underwear Guide.

Did I miss any of your favorite places to get underwear? Comment below or tweet me @askatomboy!


  1. Great article. I had no clue. Glad I never skip a post you write. You have great ideas

  2. Loving the compression shorts!!! Looking good :)

  3. I really like the brand Girls Will Be Boys! They make boxer briefs without a pouch.

  4. Love this article! Keep up the great writing:)

  5. Hey Jess, try FOXERS next time, they're my favorite and exactly what you're looking for.

  6. Hi Jess,
    Try the NAPOS boyshorts, supercool designer underwear.

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